A Nice Guy writes:
“I just now realized that no matter how many times women tell me how attractive I am, I'll just never believe it. My main Self Limiting Belief is that I'm just not that attractive, or attractive enough. Unfortunately I don't think this will ever change. So I just have to tell myself, ‘Act as if she's attracted to you.’ This seems to work best.”
Can you relate?
I have found that most Nice Guys have doubts about their attractiveness. They focus on being too short, overweight, too thin, not enough hair, etc., etc. They assume their lack of attractiveness is a primary reason that women don’t seem to flock to them.
Ironically, I have worked with numerous guys who are actually very good-looking. Yet due to a tepid dating history, they assume that women don’t find them physically attractive.
I have dealt with the same thing since I was a teen. I have a scar on my lip, I wore glasses when I was younger, was skinny, had acne as a teenager, and watched my hair recede as a young adult.
Like most men, I judged myself by the same physical standards by which I judged women. Mainly face and body.
Here is what I have learned.
In general, women don't judge men by the same physical standards by which we judge them. Of course most women are attracted to good physical features, but in general, their attraction is based on how a man makes them feel.
If you are smart, funny, and act confident
If you set the tone and take the lead
If you have an interesting life
If you take good care of yourself