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Take Your Recovery to The Next Level

Join me and seven No More Mr. Nice Guy certified coaches and therapists for the first ever No More Mr. Nice Guy Recovery Conference.

Spend four days with the top experts in the field of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome and 80 other recovering Nice Guys. Learn, grow, challenge yourself, and connect.

You don't have to do it alone. Take advantage of daily keynotes and 25 breakout sessions led by me and top coaches and therapists – and lots of personal time to connect with and learn from other recovering Nice Guys.

See you in LA!

Robert
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Dr. Robert Glover
Author of No More Mr. Nice Guy

 

Your Highest Priority

What's your highest recovery/personal-growth priority?
 
  • Do you want to break free from an addiction?
  • Do you want to live up to your potential?
  • Do you want to become a more effective dater?
  • Do you want a healthier intimate relationship?
  • Do you want to discover and live your passions?
  • Do you want to build a foundation of great guy friends?
  • Do you want to advance at your work or career?
  • Do you want more love?
  • Do you want a vibrant sex life?
  • Do you want to be more assertive?
  • Do you want to be able to confront fear and walk through open doors of opportunity?
 No matter your priority, intention, or desire, you can best achieve it through connecting with other recovering people.
 
So many of the men I work with are stuck some place in their life because they try to go it alone.
 
If you could change your life on your own, you would have already done it by now. You might know this is true, yet something keeps getting in your way.
 
Experiencing personal happiness, feeling fulfilled, living up to your potential, feeling a part of something bigger than yourself - all these occur in the context of supportive, authentic, and loving personal connections.
 
The bulk of my personal recovery work has been done in the context of supportive systems: 12-Step groups, personal therapy, men's support groups, seminars, and personal friends.

When I try to go it alone, I stagnate and struggle. When I open up to my support systems, answers and tools appear almost instantaneously.

The inaugural No More Mr. Nice Guy Recovery conference has one sole purpose – to surround you with experienced coaches and therapists. These men are all on a journey similar to your own. They get it. They know the territory. Their life-purpose is supporting recovering men like you.

In this conference, you will participate in a program geared toward moving your personal recovery forward in the quickest, most effective ways possible. We will do this with:

 
  • daily keynotes from Dr. Robert Glover
  • 20 Breakout "classes" and discussion panels on the fundamental principles of Nice Guy recovery and growth
  • small discussion and process groups led by NMMNG certified coaches and therapists
  • networking time with other recovering Nice Guys from around the world
  • daily meditative and somatic exercises to help you connect with your deepest self
All information presented will be practical, interactive, and effective. Every coach and presenter in this conference is on his own personal journey of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome.

Space is limited to 80 men.

Men from around the world started booking their flights to Los Angeles even before they knew the content of the workshop. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Make a commitment to you. Make a commitment to your life.

You don't have to do it alone. You can't do it alone.

Come join us in LA and take your life and recovery to the next level.

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Keynote Presentations by Dr. Glover

“My Personal Journey of Recovery, What I’ve Learned So Far.”

“PET: Emotional Tension – Why Women Need It, How Men Kill It.”

"Nothing Hidden, Nothing Half-Assed: The Transformational Power of Commitment"

Keynote Presenter: Dr. Robert Glover

glover, r smallDr. Robert Glover (Puerto Vallarta, Mexico) is the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, And Life, and an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, consultation, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world. As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men's professional careers and intimate relationships.

Breakout Sessions

Details
 
  • All breakout session will be led by NMMNG certified coaches and therapists.
  • Sessions last 1.5 hours.
  • Time will be allotted for discussion and Q&A.
  • All sessions will be interactive and practical.


Personal Recovery
Recovery Basics: Core Recovery Principals and Tools, Steven Sutton
This session will focus on fundamental principals of Nice Guy recovery. We’ll discuss how to approach new ideas as a powerful man and learn from nearly every experience. We’ll talk through recovery concepts, such as a Nice Guy’s reflected sense of self, learning to know what you want, finding peace with a wide range of outcomes, how to stop needing other people’s approval, and more. You’ll learn specific tools to practice and have a chance to try some things out in-session. If you’re new to Nice Guy recovery this session will give you an awesome overview of critical skills. If you’ve been working with these ideas for years you’ll hear new ways of approaching core issues every Nice Guy grapples with.

Why Do I Care What They Think? Breaking the Addiction of External Validation, Jason Miller
How much of your day do you spend worrying about what other people think of you? Nice Guys often can’t shake the need to be liked for who they are and what they do. Whether you’re trying to perform at work or get to that second date, you might be unaware of how dependent you are on other people’s opinions of you. Imagine what your life would be like if you felt good about yourself regardless of other peoples’ judgments. What could you accomplish then? In this session, learn what it takes to build up your self-worth from within and break free from the thoughts and beliefs that don’t belong to you.

Recovery and Relapse: How to Avoid the Potholes and Learn How to Walk Down Different Streets, Paul Taillefer
Most of us had a sense of real “hope” after we discovered NMMNG and the potential for recovering from what has probably plagued our thoughts throughout our lives. But the truth is that we all still struggle with our recoveries on a regular basis as we learn a new paradigm for living. This presentation will be a personal account of my “recovery” from the NG syndrome as well as the “Potholes” I’ve stumbled into along the way. We’ll cover setbacks, relapses, what lead up to them, and unconsciousness…as well as the successes, achievements and personal acceptance that come with growth. You’ll take away: how to recognize your personal “potholes” and where you go unconscious, methods for recovering quickly from a set back, how to detach from the shame that usually accompanies a relapse, and how to start walking down different streets to avoid the potholes altogether and return to the journey of your life.

Reanimating Desire: The First Step on the Road to Recovery, Dr. Michael Pariser
Most of us Nice Guys, because we grew up in a family in which we were responsible for another’s feelings (normally our mother’s), have found an unconscious method for shutting off all desire when in another’s presence. In other words, we don’t know what we want. This makes sense because knowing what we want might lead to a conflict with the person we are trying to make happy. However, we can’t pursue happiness if we don’t know what makes us happy. So the first step in the process of change is to reanimate our desire so we can establish and go after goals for ourselves. This session will focus on how to go about doing that and follow through so we can get what we want once we’ve set our goals.

Panel Discussion: Developing a Daily Recovery Practice, Steve, Robert, and Paul
The basic formula for making any significant change in life is simple: build support systems of like-minded people, develop daily practices to reinforce new ways of thinking, feeling, and acting, and practice the new principles consistently over time. Developing a daily recovery practice of reading, meditating, breathing, mindfulness, practicing gratitude, and using other recovery tools is essential for personal development and living a good life. Unfortunately, this is one of the most challenging and overlooked aspects of recovery. Join three experienced coaches as they discuss and demonstrate their own daily recovery practices.

Intimate Relationships
Why You Cannot Trust Your Thoughts in Relationships, Bjorn Heijligers
Ever wonder why our rational mind works so well in understanding the physical world but so poorly in guiding our personal life and relationships? In this breakout we`ll discuss the architecture of our brain and the impact it has on our perception of reality, which is mostly felt in our intimate relationships and prevents us from experiencing true intimacy. Building on this knowledge, we’ll talk about one of the most powerful theories in psychology, attachment theory, which describes four coping mechanisms our brain employs to prevent us from becoming vulnerable. Armed with this knowledge, we’ll be much better equipped to handle the next conflict.

Presence, Hajee Pepping
The biggest gift a man can give to a woman is his full presence, which helps her feel safe and seen.  Fully meeting a woman, but not being intimidated by her, requires “depth.” A man’s depth measures the masculine level of integration and relates closely to his ability to be present. But what is presence? How can you improve it? How can you notice your own level of presence? In this workshop we will discuss all this and do a number of related exercises, including meditation as well as more playful methods.

Uncaged: Getting Real, Bjorn Heijligers
Do you ever feel trapped? Unseen and misunderstood in your relationship? In this breakout session we will explore ways out of co-dependence with our partners, learning to stand our ground, show ourselves, and get real through brotherhood and vulnerability. We will also explore what it means to be vulnerable, experience the strength of male bonding, tap into our healthy animal nature, and transcend our self-limiting beliefs with the help of our brothers.

Sex
Introduction to Tantra, Hajee Pepping
Tantra is the art of balancing the masculine and the feminine. It aims for living in that state in which both the intellect and the emotional body are fully owned and lived. It is also about confronting difficult circumstances in order to create personal growth. This is why sex plays an important role in tantra: covered with shame, guilt, and fixations, at the same time, it is our body’s strongest energy. Therefore, transforming shame and guilt can make the practice of tantra a very deep healing process. During this session, Hajee will cover some of the many facets of practicing tantra: how it drastically improves sex life and overall energy level, and how it serves the NMMNG recovery process. We will talk dirty during this workshop.  

Trust and Surrender: The Sexual Gift of Polarity, Bjorn Heijligers
Let’s talk about sex or, rather, the gift of surrender. How can we lead our women into deeper trust and surrender? What does it mean to serve women with our sexual energy? How do we become better men and lovers? In this hands-on workshop and some seemingly innocent exercises we will explore both sides of the equation and explore the gifts of both the masculine and the feminine as seen from a tantric perspective. (This breakout will involve non-sexual touching with each other.)

Addiction and Compulsive Behavior
12-Step Recovery Programs: Timeless Wisdom for Dealing with Compulsive Behavior, Paul Taillefer
Most NG’s struggle with some form of compulsive behavior (or addiction) throughout their lives. Whether they are aware of it or not, it is interfering with their ability to be truly real and available for most relationships. In this presentation we’ll uncover the purpose of addiction in our lives, how it develops, the rituals that surround it, what 12-Step Recovery programs offer, and how they have helped millions recover. You’ll leave knowing the reasons for stopping, how to find and work a program, and the life-saving benefits of freedom from compulsive self-destructive behaviors.

Masculinity & Connecting With Men
Masculinity 101: Discovering the Core Essentials of Being a Man, Ken Curry
Most of what we hear or understand about masculinity is bull shit. Masculinity is downplayed, ridiculed, and disrespected in just about every avenue of our culture. No wonder we have no idea of how to be a man or even of what masculinity is. There is no crisis of masculinity. Masculinity is just fine. The crisis is in the idiotic perceptions of it, and men need the true and accurate view that masculinity is designed to be a force for good in our world. In this breakout session we’ll look at how present views of masculinity have shaped what we believe about ourselves as men. I will outline the two core paradoxes of masculinity that create the central tension in a man’s life and discuss how knowing them will change how he moves in his life.

Making and Sustaining the Male Friendships You Want, Steven Sutton
Why do you suppose so many Nice Guys end up socially isolated and with so few male friends? In this session we’re going to explore that question and unpack what it takes to cultivate a strong, male, social-support network. You’ll learn why you have an aversion to social situations and find it exhausting to spend time around other guys. You’ll also learn how to begin changing your mindset and what it takes to sustain real friendships.  We’ll work through the challenge of confronting yourself about the true roles of the people in your life and how to develop a strong sense of what you want from other guys. Come join this interactive discussion and walk away with new tools for creating the male relationships you want.

Living Your Full Potential
Turning Rumination into Useful Thinking, Dr. Michael Pariser
Many of us Nice Guys are ruminators. We ruminate before important events, running scenarios over and over in our nervous heads in an attempt to cover every base and thereby eliminate our anxiety. We also ruminate after the fact, especially when we didn’t succeed, attempting to rewrite history to make things come out the way we would have liked. While this rumination may have the feel of mental masturbation, it actually has much in common with solid thinking, and it is possible to shift from the former to the latter, from an ineffective to an effective process. In this session, I will show you how to make that change, both before and after important events, and more consistently learn from your experiences and achieve your goals in life.

Lean Into the Storm: Facing Conflict by Accessing Your Authenticity, Jason Miller
Does the idea of calling people out for their bad behavior give you anxiety? Or do you dread being found out for making a mistake? Nothing makes a Nice Guy panic more than direct conflict. Since conflict is a part of life and often a stepping-stone to connection, avoiding it only ensures you will get the outcome they want. In this session you will learn what it takes to soothe your anxiety and get clear about how to work with other people to get more of what you want in life.

How to Develop Courage and Confidence by Facing Life’s Challenges Head-on, Ken Curry
Confidence is absolutely attractive to women. Courage is absolutely respected by men. Nice Guys profoundly lack both. Why is this? As we Nice Guys move through life we choose and adopt avoidance mechanisms to keep us safe or to help us feel comfortable. In our avoidance of and withdrawal from difficulties, tensions, and potential pain or loss we lose valuable opportunities for growth. This breakout session will look at why men avoid difficulties, the common ways they choose to do so, and what life looks like when they begin to embrace, even create, these challenges in their lives. We will discuss how the process of engaging and embracing challenge is a significant way of building confidence and courage in life.

Healthy Relation with Anger, Hajee Pepping
Hajee considers a healthy relationship with anger as one of the key factors to living a mature NMMNG life. It makes you more attractive and trustworthy, and it empowers you. In this workshop he will discuss how embracing your anger helps you protect your boundaries, which in turn makes you more attractive to women, and help you discover how you currently act out your anger and how you can use it in more constructive and serving ways. This interactive session will  invite you to share your experiences, your fears, and your resistance towards anger, and will include empowering exercises.

The Power of Congruence: Boost Your Influence, Attractiveness, and Charisma through Embodiment, Jason Miller
Do you know if your body is saying the same thing you’re thinking? Or are you covering something up without even knowing it? The most likeable and charismatic people move through the world with congruence. In other words, their body language, vocal tone, and facial expressions match what they are thinking, feeling, and saying. They relax into who they are and freely express themselves in the world. In this session, you will learn how your coping mechanisms to manage anxiety and shame are getting in the way of being congruent and accessing your power in the world.

Understanding You
Heaven and Hell: The Dark Beneath the Nice Guy, Dr. Michael Pariser
As Nice Guys, we try to earn love by doing, by making women happy, because we believe we won’t get it simply by being ourselves. In fact, most of us are convinced we are inherently defective and therefore unlovable, and we dwell secretly in a dark, depressed world I call Personal Hell. There, sad and lonely, we dream and scheme to gain the love of the beautiful woman whose love has the power to change us from frog to prince, from lost to found, from living in Hell to living in Heaven. Only when we come to accept ourselves as we are can we let go of mythic Heaven fantasies and work our way out of Hell. Then we can finally know what makes us happy, pursue it, find appropriate partners, and live peaceful and contented lives.

How to Find Your True Identity by Remembering Who You Really Are, Ken Curry
Having a true and accurate identity is a core essential for living a life of strength and intention. As a Nice Guy your sense of your value and worth has been determined by so many external sources, you are probably unaware of the truth about where your value actually rests: in your identity. Most Nice Guys are continually “smoking the validation crack pipe,” searching for something or someone to give them a sense of worth. They look to women, accomplishments, and other external sources to determine their value when they only need to look deep within. You will walk away from this discussion with a renewed vigor to find who you really are and an understanding that your value is found only within. You will be challenged to begin the process of creating your own personal “Maximus Statement” from the movie Gladiator.

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Presenters

All Presenters are NMMNG Certified
Coaches and Therapists

curry, k smallKen Curry (Littleton, Colorado) is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in private practice. His specialty is manhood, masculinity and relationships. Along with individual and relationship counseling, Ken provides groups for men to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome and to build personal integrity in order to influence the world with intent and passion. Ken believes that masculinity is good and that men are designed to move with freedom, presence and strength. For this purpose he’s developed the Solid Man Process so men can get their hearts back, develop their solid core, and overcome anger or porn. Visit his website at Solidman.org
heiligers, b smallBjorn Heijligers (Leiden, NL) an astronomer gone rogue, found his mission after twelve years exploring alternative relationship forms: helping men be present, vulnerable, and free so they can serve their women into deeper trust and surrender. Born in 1974, Björn has extensive background in science, tantra, relationship therapy, and martial arts. He walks the path less trodden. Combining coaching with science and spirituality and a big sense of adventure, he is ready to support men into their own trust and surrendered leadership.
miller, j smallJason Miller (San Diego, CA) has spent his entire life dedicated to self-improvement and self-discovery. Frustrated in his relationships with women, he spent years working with coaches and therapists in order to gain satisfaction in his life. Ultimately, Jason became certified to train and coach men using the methods that had served him so well. Jason always knew he was a "nice guy." But it wasn't until he discovered Dr. Glover's book that he fully understood the reasons why he'd been struggling all his life. Jason is now a No More Mr. Nice Guy Certified Coach. He specializes in helping men develop their own charisma in the areas of dating, and leadership.
pariser, m smallDr. Michael Pariser (Los Angeles, CA) is psychologist and psychoanalyst in private practice with offices in West Los Angeles and Marina del Rey. He is an Adjunct Professor at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology and a faculty member and Training and Supervising Analyst at The Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis in West Los Angeles. Recently he received his Diplomate in wine and spirits, and he is now learning to sail.
pepping, hHajee Pepping (Wapse, NL) is a man with different roles: father, partner, colleague and friend. His quest for himself knew many intermediate stations: making music,  addictions, zenmeditation, vipassana, tantra and NMMNG recovery. Hajee is a certified teacher at The New Tantra in anger and masculinity. His life purpose is to support men in living their lives to their fullest potential. The last 4 years Hajee has evolved as a men's coach, anger coach and facilitator of men's groups. He already has extensive experience in facilitating groups and especially men's groups.With his strong presence, empathy and humor he creates a safe space to dive deeper into your needs as a man and explore what is holding you back.
Sutton, S smallSteven Sutton (Portland, OR) is a licensed psychotherapist who works with recovering Nice Guys and their partners. Steve draws on a mixture of his professional training and his own Nice Guy recovery journey to help men make changes they want in their life.
taillefer, p smallPaul Taillefer (Edmonton, Alberta, Canada) is a life coach, group facilitator, teacher, father and businessman for 30 years. He brings his own personal experience of addiction recovery, self-help, growth and development from many varied sources into his commitment to helping Men truly become the Integrated Man that we all possess deep inside of us. He was certified as a NMMNG Coach in 2013 and completed his personal & life Coaching certification in 2015. He started and facilitates the first NMMNG group in Canada since 2014 and is committed to assisting Men reach their personal goals through growth and experience.
Registration Fee

Conference Registration fee:

$795.00 USD

 
  • The registration fee covers all workshop presentations and materials, continental breakfast each morning, lunch each afternoon, and light refreshments throughout the day.
  • The registration feel does not cover transportation, lodging, or other personal expenses.


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Refund Policy

All refund request must be sent by email to Dr. Glover. Refund requests after 1 August are subject to a 25% handling fee
Conference Schedule

Friday

5:30-6:30 pm:  Check in
6:30-7:00 pm:  Workshop logistics, Dr. Michael Pariser
7:00-8:30 pm:  Keynote, Dr. Robert Glover “My Personal Journey of Recovery, What I’ve Learned So Far.”
8:45-9:45 pm:  Introduction of coaches and coach sharing
10:00 - 10:30 pm: Wrap up and questions
 
Saturday

8:00-9:00 am:  Doors open, continental breakfast
9:00-9:30 am:  Morning introduction and exercise
9:30-11:00 am:  Keynote, Dr. Robert Glover: “PET: Emotional Tension – Why Women Need It, How Men Kill It.”
11:15-12:45 pm:  Breakout sessions
1:00-2:00 pm:  Lunch Break (lunch provided)
2:00-2:30 pm:  Afternoon introduction and exercise
2:45-4:15 pm:  Breakout sessions
4:15-5:00 pm:  Personal time / network
5:00-6:00 pm:  Discussion & process groups with coaches
6:00 pm:  Dinner on your own

 
Sunday

8:00-9:00 am:  Doors open, continental breakfast
9:00-9:30 am:  Morning introduction and exercise
9:30-11:00 am:  Keynote, Dr. Robert Glover: "Nothing Hidden, Nothing Half-Assed: The Transformational Power of Commitment"
11:15-12:45 pm:  Breakout sessions
1:00-2:00 pm:  Lunch Break (lunch provided)
2:00-2:30 pm:  Afternoon introduction and exercise
2:45-4:15 pm:  Breakout sessions
4:15-5:00 pm:  Personal time / network
5:00-6:00 pm:  Discussion & process groups with coaches
6:00 pm:  Dinner on your own
 
Monday

8:00-9:00 am:  Doors open, continental breakfast
9:00-9:30 am:  Morning introduction and exercise
9:30-11:30 am:  Master panel discussion
11:45-12:30 am:  Discussion & process groups with coaches
12:30 – 1:00 pm:  Wrap up and goodbye

Continental breakfast each morning, lunch each afternoon, and light refreshments throughout the day.

Schedule is subject to change.


Explanation of Schedule

Keynotes. These are presentations Dr. Glover will make around key issues of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome.

Breakout sessions. Each presenter (eight NMMNG Certified Coaches and Therapists) will lead three breakout sessions during the weekend on subjects relating to all areas of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome. The sessions will last 1.5 hours and will be presented in a way that encourages interaction between the coach and participants.

Discussion & process groups with coaches. Each conference participant will be assigned to a discussion/process group. Each group will consist of 8-10 guys and will be lead by one of the coaches. These groups stay intact throughout the weekend with the same participants and coaches. These sessions will last an hour and give the participants a chance to build connection with other men, discuss and process their experiences, and connect with a coach. The group participants will be encouraged to stay connected with each other and the coach after the workshop with whatsapp.

Introduction and exercise. This is where we get everyone into the mindset for what to expect for the next few hours. We will give details of the schedule and how things will work. At each intro/warm up session, one of the coaches will serve as the MC and lead the group in an meditation/body exercise (mediation, personal growth, connection, interactive, yoga, emotional integration, etc.).

Personal time and network. This time can used by conference participants to relax, decompress, journal, socialize, network, and connect with coaches.

Movie Night. A chance to connect socially and be challenged to grow.


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Location & Lodging

Workshop Location

The Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis

10780 Santa Monica Boulevard
Suite 350
Los Angeles, California 90025-4749

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