When I started paying attention to the symptoms and markers of ADD/ADHD a few years ago, it blew my mind how many men I work with have been dragging a hidden anchor behind them all their lives. Most are smart, moderately successful, but FRUSTRATED! And they just don’t know why.Read More
I got through that challenging period of my life, and now 25 years later, I still repeat “No matter what happens, I will handle it” and know it’s true. I give credit to Feel the Fearand Do It Anyway for saving my life. . . . The War of Art feels like it was written just for me. Every time I start reading it, I experience a burst of productivity and focus, which is why I keep rereading it.
In general, people who are naturally good at something don't teach it well. They assume that everyone picks up the subject or skill just as easily as they did. When some don't, such teachers don't know how to help students over the hump, because they never struggled with it themselves.
This is how life works. We continuously bump into various sticking points that cause us frustration, anxiety, fear, guilt, etc. Until we step up and consciously deal with them, nothing ever changes. No matter what our sticking points are, we can’t rise any higher in life until we clear those hurdles. Period. It doesn’t matter what your sticking is, you can only rise as high as that particular glass ceiling will permit.
At its core, The Nice Guy Syndrome is all about managing anxiety. Ironically, since anxiety is a lifelong companion for Nice Guys, the brain gets used to feeling it. Trying to let go of this familiar companion actually creates a new and more frightening kind of anxiety for the brain.Read More
As external conditions change, it becomes tougher to meet the three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions, and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other. . .