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Two Of My Favorite Books

by Dr. Robert Glover on Jul 28th, 2013.     5 comments

feel-the-fear-blogIf you asked me what book has changed my life more than any other, without hesitation I would say Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers.
Honestly, the writing of my book No More Mr. Nice Guy has probably had the biggest impact on my life, but I don’t think I would have ever written it if I hadn’t read Feel the Fear.
I first read an excerpt in a mid-eighties magazine when I was married to my first wife and working as a minister. I thought what it said was a lot like the advice and support I gave to others and a good reminder to face my own fears. I made a mental note to watch for the book when it came out.
Fast-forward a couple of years. I was going through a divorce, I had left my position as a minister, and I was looking for a new job as a therapist. I had child-support and maintenance payments, I was burdened with shame and guilt for leaving my wife and two-year-old son, and I was broke and couldn’t find a job.
At that point, I stumbled again onto Feel the Fear, bought it, read it, and reread it. Its basic message resonated with me in the most challenging and frightening time I have ever experienced. My biggest take-away was the mantra “No matter what happens, I will handle it.”
For months, I fell asleep every night repeating that mantra  – with no idea how I would handle it – and woke up every morning with the attitude that I would get through this. Every day, I kept moving forward, repeating my mantra.
I got through that challenging period of my life, and now 25 years later, I still repeat “No matter what happens, I will handle it” and know it’s true. I give credit to Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway for saving my life.
I have recommended the book to thousands of people, and their response is always as positive as mine.
The most recent addition to my favorite books is a small one called The War of Art by Steven Pressfield (also the author of The Legend of Bagger Vance). The title, of course, is a takeoff from the ancient book The Art of War.
the-war-of-art-blogLike Feel The Fear, The War of Art hits you right between the eyes with both its simple, direct premise and its tools for challenging a core issue that affects pretty much all of us. I first read it last fall and have reread it twice since and given copies to everyone close to me.
Its theme is that “resistance” gets in the way of our manifesting our “art” and passion in life. Pressfield’s description of the many ways resistance dominates our life and prevents us from living up to our full potential is like a baseball bat upside the head.
Like Feel The Fear, The War of Art feels like it was written just for me. Every time I start reading it, I experience a burst of productivity and focus, which is why I keep rereading it.
If you are feeling stuck in any area of life or want a boost for moving forward, I highly recommend both of these books. If you have read either book, feel free to share your experience below.

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Dave says ...
I love the "I'll handle it" mantra as well. Taking ownership vs being the victim is a key principle of taking charge of one's own life.

Dr. Glover, will you let us know when your July 2012 through July 2013 podcasts will be available for individual purchase? I am chomping at the bit for all the podcasts you've done in the past year.
Broderick says ...
I've read both of them. I listened to the War of Art today at work.

What Pressfield said about putting your work out there for criticism hit me. I have lots of creations but unfinished and private. I consider this THE book on recognizing and overcoming resistance in its many forms.
Andrew says ...
Just finished the Jeffers book, about to start the Pressfield one. The Jeffers one was great! Dr. Glover, let us all know if there are other books out there you'd recommend!
mondo gonz says ...
like your work, thanks for sharing:
Igor says ...
The credo "no matter what happens, I will handle it" does help. Thank you. I also share your thoughts on resistance issue. I think Dr. David Burns talks about it quite well. He points out that in therapy the therapist has to take special acts to melt resistance away. Otherwise a person will fight against changes. He talks about process and outcome resistance. To me it does make sense. Sorry if you find it inappropriate to talk about other therapist in your blog. I will look into the war of art.


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