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The Ruminating Brain: Practical Strategies for Turning Your Biggest Critic into Your Staunchest Ally

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Discover how your mind lies to you, creates a false identity, keeps you isolated and living in fear, triggers shame and guilt, and prevents you from living the amazing life you desire.

  • One Day TPI Workshop
  • Led by Dr. Robert Glover
    & Dr. Michael Pariser
  • Los Angeles CA
  • Saturday, 15 August, 2015

The Ruminating Brain

What is a Ruminating Brain?

A ruminating brain is a washing machine that is constantly agitating in your head. It spins constantly, day and night. 24/7.
 
Typically, a ruminating brain causes a person’s mind to spin in many of the following ways (check any that apply to you):
 
Your Ruminating Brain Keeps Your Mind Spinning About the Past:

 
  • It rehashes perceived mistakes.
  • It contemplates missed opportunities.
  • It replays failures and fuck-ups.
  • It dwells on regret about bad choices.
Your Ruminating Brain Keeps Your Mind Spinning About the Future:
 
  • It lives in fear of repeating your same mistakes.
  • It is dominated by worry, fear, and anxiety.
  • It keeps you stuck in the paralysis of analysis.
  • It lives in the world of “what if” and can imagine every possible negative outcome of any action or situation.
  • Even when things are going well, it’s anticipating the other shoe falling.
Your Ruminating Brain Keeps Your Mind Spinning About Your Perceived Inadequacies and Others’ Opinions of You:
 
  • It compares you to others in ways that make you feel inferior and inadequate
  • It measures you by its own arbitrary standards and unrealistic expectations.
  • It remembers every mistake but forgets most successes.
  • It obsesses over what people might think about you.
  • It lives for others’ affirmation and approval but can’t believe or accept them when they come
The Madness

Obsessing about the past, living in the future, and comparing and measuring the self always results in a sense of worthlessness, failure, fear, and inadequacy. It paralyzes you and prevents you from acting boldly in your own best interest. It keeps you isolated and lonely. It makes you think you have to overcompensate and exceed people’s expectations in order to be loved and liked (and get laid). It blinds you to opportunity and the open doors that surround you. It keeps you living in deprivation rather than abundance.
 
Your Mind Is a Liar  
 
Your mind lies to you all the time – this is a proven neurological and psychological fact.
 
Your mind distorts your reality, perceptions, memories, thoughts, and emotions. It easily convinces you that you’re a worthless, unlovable person, and that the world is a scary, unforgiving place. It has no problem dredging up all kinds of evidence to support and reinforce these distorted beliefs while ignoring information that might contradict them (Confirmation Bias).
 
Why does your mind do this?
 
Because of the type of brain you have.
 
The mind resides in the brain and thinks, believes, and acts on your thoughts. But this is determined by how your brain is wired.
 
If you nodded like a bobble head as you read down the lists above, you probably have a Ruminating Brain.
 
  • You may have inherited your ruminating brain from your parents just as you inherited your body type, height, and eye color.
  • Or, early in life, your brain may have become wired to ruminate to cope with and manage abandonment, abuse, fear, sadness, uncertainty, or unpredictability.
Whether genetically inherited or wired early to manage childhood experiences, your ruminating brain constantly agitates like a washing machine. It causes your mind to spin and ruminate, often in ways that create a negative view of self, others, and the world.
 
Your mind rehashes negative thoughts, memories, fears, emotions, and scenarios of doom and gloom so frequently and consistently, that you naturally believe all the assumptions it makes about you and your place in the world.
 
But it is often wrong!
 
Your mind can perceive a mistake and replay it over and over again. It will convince you that you are fundamentally flawed for making such a mistake and that you have to take every precaution never to make similar mistakes again. Your mind convinces you that your self-worth depends on always getting it right.
 
Here’s an important reality: the mind always believes everything it tells itself is true.
 
If your mind thinks it, your mind believes it, without question.

The Good News

Your mind may convince you that you’re defective and unlovable – but it is wrong!
 
Your brain may have a programming flaw, but you don’t!
 
Realizing that you aren’t defective – and that the belief that you are comes from blindly accepting the distorted messages your mind constantly replays – can be one of the most emotionally liberating messages you could ever receive!
 
How to Stop The Madness?
 
Learn to become an observer of your thoughts, not a believer in them.
 
One of the unique and beautiful things about the human mind is that it can observe itself. It can watch its own thoughts, feelings, beliefs, biases, impulses, etc.
 
Your mind doesn’t care what it spins about. It’s often just ruminating about familiar, habitual topics. It likes following well-worn neural goat paths.
 
If you pay attention, you can consciously observe your thoughts, feelings, impulses, and memories and choose what your mind focuses on.
 
If you don’t, it will.
 
By practicing mindfulness and applying proven principles of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), you can learn to slow your mind, observe it, challenge its assumptions, redirect it – even laugh at it – and turn your greatest critic into your staunchest ally.


What You Will Learn in This Workshop

  • How to be the detached observer, not the believer, of your thoughts, beliefs, memories, and emotions

  • How to slow and even stop the spinning

  • How to check your thoughts for accuracy and relevance

  • How to notice when your brain is spinning before it gets out of control

  • How to reframe your thoughts and memories more realistically and productively

  • How to redirect your thoughts

  • How to sleep through the night without your mind keeping you awake

  • How to let go of attachment to outcome

  • How to stop comparing yourself to others

  • How to stop measuring yourself by arbitrary standards

  • How to let go of perfectionism and accept failure as an important part of life

  • How to learn from your mistakes and see them as opportunities for personal growth

  • How to overcome the paralysis of analysis

  • How to stop the “thinker”

  • How to accept and embrace yourself as an amazing human being


Calm the Clatter – Stop The Madness

The Ruminating Brain Workshop will help you become the observer, not the believer, of your thoughts, feelings, memories, and emotions by exploring and illuminating how your mind ruminates. You will explore the origins of your beliefs about you, others, and the world.
 
You will learn how to apply proven mindfulness and CBT strategies for regularly becoming aware of your thoughts, slowing the spinning of your mind, and shining the bright light of reason on your distorted and self-limiting beliefs.
 
Are you ready (don’t let your mind dismiss this opportunity as a waste of time and money and talk you out of it)?
 
Register now for the one-day Ruminating Brain Workshop
 
Turn Your Biggest Critic Into Your Staunchest Ally!


Schedule, Location & Fee

Workshop Schedule

10:00 AM - 1:00 PM: Workshop Session

1:00 PM - 2:30 PM: Lunch

2:30 PM - 5:30 PM: Workshop Session

This six-hour workshop includes a continental breakfast and catered lunch.



Workshop Location

The Auditorium of the Institute of
Contemporary Psychoanalysis


10780 Santa Monica Boulevard
Suite 350
Los Angeles, California 90025-4749

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Workshop Fee

Fee: $250.00

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Refund Policy

Do to a limited number of spaces available at the Los Angeles TPI Workshop, any request for refund must be made at least 7 days before the event. Refund requests made at least 7 days before the workshop will be refunded at 50% of the workshop fee or the full fee can be applied to a future workshop. No refund will be made within 7 days of the workshop, but the full registration fee can be applied to a future TPI Workshop.

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Testimonials

peter johnson"Thank you for who you are! Your workshop changed my life. Like a comet whose orbit was jarred slightly, my path took whole new directions as a result of that day. Awesome new vistas are now mine as a result. I think about you and the training often.

I've done a lot of personal growth workshops and a lot of therapy over the years, and I rank you as "a force of nature." Your work is fabulous and much needed. 95% of the time, I'm now the man I want to be; in love, in work, in energy and spirit. My path now makes itself clear; all I have to do is pay attention. Thank you!"


Peter Johnson, CA

"I signed up for Dr. Glover’s Total Personal Integration (TPI) workshop unsure if it would be a waste of time. He portrays it as “life changing” but I wasn’t sure I would get anything out of it. I think of myself as a normal guy who has had a few problems with women, relationships and sex. Not that I’ve taken the workshop, I can tell you that it was everything Dr. Glover said it would be. It was life changing for me. I discovered things about myself, issues that have been hidden for forty years. Women haven’t been my problem. My deepest beliefs about myself are the problem. Now I can deal with those issues. That’s life changing. If you have any reservation please make the effort to attend any of Dr. Glover’s seminars or workshops. You won’t be disappointed."

John, 56, Engineer, Milwaukee WI
mine 1"The workshop was in a word; Fantastic. Dr. Glover takes the time to connect with each member in such a way that you feel the workshop is customized specifically for you.  He has a command of many different life issues and he makes them easy to understand. During the course of the day, you can feel the positive energy that’s generated from spending time with other men who are working to improve their lives. I came away with the new skills and techniques I can use to move to higher consciousness. Thank you."

Chuck, Fairfax Station VA 

"The TPI Workshop is having a snowball effect on my life and the snowball is working in my favor for a change. Within one week of implementing what I learned in the workshop, I have seen meaningful changes in my life that will last a lifetime. The TPI Workshop is life-changing and it far exceeded my expectations!"

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In particular, I found the masculine and feminine chart especially life altering. I have the chart saved in my blackberry, I plastered on my wall at home in my office, and have it with me wherever I go. I even refer to it when I'm on dates!   This one topic alone has changed the way I look at my life, the way I see women, and my relationship with women.

Besides having a mind blowing weekend of information, I also met a great group of guys who I intend to stay in touch with for years to come. The amazing seminar is one thing, but no amount of materialism or money can replace the relationships and friendships formed during this weekend. Oh, I almost forgot to mention spending an awesome weekend in the sun in Puerto Vallarta was also a huge bonus.

I totally recommend this weekend to anyone who is interested in improving their lives, personal growth, forming great new friendships that can last a lifetime, and taking their life to the next level. I feel like a completely new person and plan to live my life in a way I never dreamed of thanks to the TPI weekend.  Thanks again!!!"

Brian Young, Toronto, Canada
“Dr Glover has great insight into the masculine mind and habits. If you have a problem being assertive, as I had, or a myriad of other things keeping you from success, I would highly recommend, No More Mr Nice Guy. Even greater still, attending one of his workshops and seeing that what he teaches is for real and applicable to every man.”

Randy H.


JAFPhoto"I recently attended a TPI (Total Personal Integration) weekend workshop with Dr. Robert Glover. The workshop has been incredibly valuable to me and was certainly worth the time and money. 

I had read Dr. Glover's book several years prior, but having an intensive weekend to explore the "Nice Guy" concepts in depth, in person and in community with 7 other men really allowed me to "get it" on a deep personal level. Most importantly, my life has changed! In my daily life I am now more honest, more courageous, more confident and better able to sooth my anxiety without resorting to booze or numbing activities.

Overall, I am happier and the future looks brighter to me. Along with the workshop, Dr. Glover makes a series of podcasts available to attendees. I have found the podcasts to be very helpful in focusing and reviewing the concepts I explored at the workshop. I heartily recommend the TPI workshop to any man wanting to improve his life."


Jeff F. - Denver, CO

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