No More Mr. Nice Guy

no-more-mr-nice-guy-book“I’m a Nice Guy. I’m one of the nicest guys you will ever meet.”

I was proud to make that statement about myself through much of my early adult life. I was a Nice Guy. I wanted to treat people well, and I wanted to be liked. I couldn’t understand why everyone didn’t have a similar personal mantra.

While in my early 30’s, in spite of my unwavering faith in this philosophy, my life was in crises. One marriage had ended. A second one wasn’t going so well. My career dreams were stalled. I was frustrated, resentful, and confused. If you talked to the people closest to me, I wasn’t so nice.

I decided to start working on my situation. I joined a men’s group and started working with a therapist. Honestly, my initial goal was to find out why the people around me weren’t responding so well to my Nice Guy philosophy, and I wanted to find out how to get them to change.

Within a short amount of time, I came to see that the problem was ME. I had an agenda. I had no boundaries. I was indirect. I was passive-aggressive. I wasn’t honest. I wasn’t always so nice.

As I was making these discoveries about myself, I noticed that married men I worked with in my practice as a marriage therapist were making the same kind of statements about their partners that I had been making about mine:

  • “How come I always seem to give so much more than I get?”
  • “All I want is to be appreciated. Is that asking too much?”
  • “I can never do it right.”
  • “She’s always mad.”
  • “When will it be my turn?”
  • “She never wants to have sex anymore.”

I could finish their sentences for them.

Then there were the single guys. The guys who either couldn’t get a date or who were deeply entrenched in the friend zone with the women they desired. These guys helped out and listened to women talk about their problems. They patiently waited, hoping the women they desired would quit lamenting over “jerks” and wake up to see what great men they were. Only to hear something like, “You’re such a great guy. You’ll make some lucky woman very happy some day.”

Over time I came to see, that like me, the road map of these passively pleasing men unconsciously influenced every area of their lives. I came to realize that I wasn’t the only man thinking that if I was just nice, people would like me, they would meet my needs without me having to ask, and I would have a smooth, problem-free life.

In the early 90’s I started my first “No More Mr. Nice Guy” group for these men. We met every other week, and I began writing “chapters” to give them about what I was discovering about the “Nice Guy Syndrome.” As I wrote these chapters, I kept receiving the constant feedback from these men and their partners, “You should write a book, and you should go on Oprah.”

Well, I never made it on Oprah, but I did write the book. Barnes & Noble and Running Press published it in 2003, and it has since been translated into several languages and sold thousands of copies.

Daily, I receive emails from men and women all over the world thanking me for No More Mr. Nice Guy. They tell me how it has changed their lives, and most express the sentiment that they wish they had found it sooner.

Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy

What's Inside


  1. The Nice Guy Syndrome

  2. The Making Of A Nice Guy

  3. Learn To Please The Only Person Who Really Matters

  4. Make Your Needs A Priority

  5. Reclaim Your Personal Power

  6. Reclaim Your Masculinity

  7. Get The Love You Want: Success Strategies For Intimate Relationships

  8. Get The Sex You Want: Success Strategies For Satisfying Sex

  9. Be All You Can Be: Discover Your Passion And Purpose In Life, Job, And Career

Buy The Book

“No More Mr. Nice Guy has taken the world by storm." – Washington Times

You can purchase No More Mr. Nice Guy in hardcover, eBook, and in audio format.


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The new recorded version narrated by Dr. Glover is available on Audible

Foreign Translations


The Spanish eBook translation is entitled, "¡Basta ya de ser un Tipo Lindo!"

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The Dutch translation is entitled, “Nooit Meer Mr. Nice Guy


The French print translation is entitled, “Trop Gentil Pour Être Heureux: Le Syndrome du Chic Type.”

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The German print translation is entitled, “Nie mehr Mr. Nice Guy.”

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The Romanian translation is entitled "Gata cu Baiatul Bun".

Professional Praise

"When I first saw the title No More Mr. Nice Guy, I put this book down in haste. I didn't like the title and assumed the book would be too negative or needlessly attacking of women. Then I saw the book on my desk again and opened it. I read the first chapter, then I read the second. As I kept reading I thought, “This is a very important book!” Now that I've finished it, I must recommend it to both men and women. It is insightful and very powerful, and it is very good for marriage. Don't be fooled by the title. This book is about much more than you might think! It is an important addition to our understanding of men, women and marriage."

Michael Gurian, Author of The Wonder of Boys

"I recommend No More Mr. Nice Guy regularly to my psychotherapy clients. My male clients talk glowingly about the book and often report seeing themselves on every page. Dr. Glover graphically shows why Nice Guys are not altruistic, loving, or empathic. These qualities only appear when men stop following the rules of niceness and start finding out who they are and what they really want and need. Every man and every woman should read this book!"

Anne Stirling Hastings, Ph.D., Author of America’s Sexual Crisis

"No More Mr. Nice Guy is about being a man, not a manipulator. It is about being our genuine selves, not pseudo selfless. It frees the women we love to trust us and respect us rather than fear us and suspect us. It is for every man who does not want to fear commitment out of fear of losing himself. It is well written, insightful and down-to-earth. It is for every man."

Warren Farrell, Ph.D., Author of The Myth of Male Power

No More Mr. Nice Guy is the definitive book for helping men overcome their chronic tendencies to accommodate, acquiesce, and appease their way through life. Dr. Glover knows how to speak to guys, bringing straightforward, funny, audacious, and highly-practical wisdom that teaches them step by step how to be the man they always wanted to be.”

James Rapson, M.S., co-author of Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice

"No More Mr. Nice Guy is hands down THE best book I have ever read! NMMNG explained every bad belief and bad habit I didn't even know I had! I thank God everyday I found this book."

Caleb Gammon, Atlanta GA

“Great book – If you take all the self help books and therapy sessions I have experienced and condensed them into just the stuff that applies most to my situation – you would have No More Mr. Nice Guy. I am starting my second reading of the book and keeping a journal on the breaking free activities. Many Thanks!”

John Perry

sproull 2“Glad you're doing the work you're doing. NMMNG was one of the first/most life-changing self-help books I've ever read.”

David Sproull

"My partner of a year and a half has just discovered No More Mr. Nice Guy and is working to apply the principles in his life. I read your book this morning—it floored me. I am so grateful that your work is out there to help people, and that my partner was willing to seek insight for himself. This morning, after reading your book, I felt intense relief, validation, anger, sadness, and hope. Thank you for your amazing book—even if it wasn’t intended for me, I was able to gain so much understanding about my life and men in my life from reading it."

Nikki, Boulder, CO (self-described “radical feminist”)

“I’m sure you get lots and lots of e-mails like this, but I’m only on the first chapter of your book, but burst into tears because pretty much everything you wrote about my behavior and examples were true. Its like I'm reading a book about my life. I know it's not an instant fix, but already I feel much better about the direction my life is going, and things seem easier when I'm not trying to make everything "Perfect". Thanks again, as cliche as it sounds, your book truly has changed my life, for the better.”

A.W., Australia

"My tattered and dog-eared first edition of No more Mr. Nice Guy has served me and all of mankind well. A must read for all guys who want to regain control of their lives (and their relationships)!"

Tim Macdonald, San Diego, CA

chinedu 1“I would like to say that I've read your book three times and each time I read it, I still get blown away.”

Chinedu Amadi, Nigeria

“I came across your book just before Xmas. I am currently reading it for a third time. It is fantastic! Absolutely fantastic. Dr. Glover, your book is one of the best books I have ever read. I am a well read person (two university degrees), and your book is one of the top five books I have ever read. Why, oh why, did I not come across this a long time ago? I could have saved myself a lot of grief.”
Brian, Cusack, St. John's, Newfoundland, Canada

"I'm sure you've gotten emails from countless grateful readers and clients, but please accept one more. I read your book three days ago, and it has already completely changed my life. I make no pretense about recovery being easy, but I'll get there."

Al Delgado, Miami, FL

“Finally I found out what I have been looking for. I realized that there was a problem with me a few years back when I got rejected by a girl. Since then I have been reading a lot on low self esteem and other similar stuff. But your book is the ultimate guide. Every single word in the book is true. I can’t thank you enough. Keep it up man.”

Ash, Jowai, Meghalaya, India

"I really can't wait to implement all the suggestions of the book into my love life which is one of my main weaknesses. I'm sure I'm going to be successful. You have changed my life doctor. I was so amazed about the book I bought it in kindle and paper (this one I'm going to share it with a friend who is a nice guy too!!!) I really can't stop thanking you."

Juan C, London, UK

"In reading NMMNG I became aware that I was unconsciously repeating behavior that destined me to fail in my intimate relationships. The book is a profound gift to any man wanting to establish authenticity in all aspects of his life and discontinue his role as a relationship 'welcome mat.'"
HF, Toronto